Essential Oils - 6 common oils and how they impact us

The "Proust phenomenon” suggests that even though we have different cultures, memories, and experiences, we all have the ability to have a distinct response when inhaling aromas. When we experience a fragrance (even when our attention is not on it) it creates a pathway to different areas of our brain, triggers a memory and creates an emotional response. Our olfactory system, the part of the brain that processes scent, is directly connected to the part of the brain where our memories and emotions are stored." Seventy-six per cent of women and 46.8% of men claimed that odor-cued memories were amongst their most vivid" (Chu). So, all of this means that we can use scent to enhance our mood and help manage our emotions. Science shows us that just by inhaling these scents, it's actually changing our bodies. Pretty amazing! 

But, remember, they aren't there to do the emotional work for you.


LAVENDER / The oil of communication & calm

Everyone knows that lavender is a soother. It's what you grab when you need a good night's sleep, but lavender also supports us in releasing any tension we are holding on to when we fail to express ourselves well. You know how lack of communication often leaves us anxious and totally messes with our sleep? And you know when all you can think about is what you should have said? As we learn to be honest and open, we have the ability to experience peace of mind. phew!Lavender allows us to share our true selves with others... and I for one am pretty keen on that. 

Negative Emotions: Blocked communication, racing thoughts, feeling unseen, unheard, or unloved. 

Positive Properties: Open communication, calm, expressive, emotional honesty, self-aware, peace of mind. 

CLOVE / The oil of boundaries

I think this is one we really need to pay attention to. Clove supports individuals in letting go of victim mentality. When we feel powerless, Clove helps us shift our energy to be proactive and feel capable in our own choices. We all suffer from this at some point, and I just can't help but think what a wonderful gift this would be. When you think of fragrance in this way, when you give a gift to someone who is struggling, like a candle — it becomes a healer. 

"Clove reignites a soul fire and can assist anytime there has been damage related to childhood pain, trauma, or abuse." - Emotions & Essential Oils

When we restore our sense of self and regain our inner strength, we can stand up for our needs and break free of old patterns. Then, new and better patterns can be established! Clove, man...It's important. 

Negative Emotions: Victim mentality, defeated, fear of rejection, codependent.

Positive Properties: Empowered, clear boundaries, courageous, independent, capable, proactive.

NEROLI /  The oil of shared purpose & partnership

Neroli is a big one for me. There are times when I loathe the smell of it and the very next day, I could bathe my body in it. (I guess that gives you some emotional insight, eh?) Often, when we have scent aversions that come and go like that, it's how we are processing the emotional work that we are doing. That just changed the way you think about things didn't it? Neroli is both unifying and stabilizing and helps calm our hearts during relationship troubles (also pairs well with ice cream and meditation).  As our partners come into full view during our relationships, we can often become distant and create emotional barriers from the people we love the most. Neroli helps us practice empathy, patience, forgiveness and flow as our relationships evolve and change. It also encourages us to address emotional barriers in healthy sexual expression and connection. It is a gentle reminder that sexual unity is a vital part of relationship happiness. Huzzah!

Negative Emotions: Conflicted, restless, bitter, frustrated, disloyal, sexual inhibition, stagnant, blaming

Positive Properties: Patient, empathetic, kind, tolerant, fidelity, calm, sexual desire, committed.

CEDAR / The oil of community

Perhaps this should be the official fragrance of MW? Cedar invites us to both give and receive and opens awareness to the support system that is there for us. It frees us from the burden of living with excessive self-reliance, helps us connect to our human family and feel the love of others. There is such power and strength in community, right!?!

Negative Emotions: Inability to form social bonds, lonely, antisocial.

Positive Properties: Emotionally connected, supported social bonds, sociable, community oriented. 

CLARY SAGE / The oil of clarity & vision

This one is for those folks who need a nudge expanding their limited beliefs and opening themselves up to new ideas and perspectives. Clary Sage is also great for artists and makers because it opens our creative channels and clears creative blocks. It allows us to visualize and imagine new possibilities with our gifts. 

Negative Emotions: Confused, hopeless, blocked creativity.

Positive Properties: Intuitive, open-minded, imaginative. 

ROSE / The oil of divine love

Rose holds a higher vibration than any other oil on the planet. That is pretty powerful! We know it to be a healer of the heart but rose also helps individuals restore authenticity and wholeness as they heal their wounds. It embodies divine love and shows us how to live with our hearts fully open. Clear eyes, full hearts, can't lose. Yeah, I said it. #coachtaylorforever

Negative Emotions: Constricted feelings, closed or broken heart, lack of compassion, wounded.

Positive Properties: Loved, compassionate, tenderhearted, empathy. 


  • Floral Essential oils typically hold calming properties.
  • Tree, herb, and grass oils are known to promote grounding, soothing emotions and feelings of renewal.
  • Mint essential oils are commonly known to be energizing and uplifting.
  • Citrus oils typically possess significant uplifting characteristics.
  • Spice essential oils are known for their warming properties.


Chu, Simon. Chemical Senses, Volume 25, Issue 1, 1 February 2000, Pages 111–116.

Emotions & Essential Oils. A Reference Guide for Healing, 2017 Sixth Ed.


February 22, 2018 by Lindsey Smith

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